An overwhelming sadness is not something you have to deal with on your own. It has happened to all of us and will still happen to most of us in the future. Sadness is a part of life – it is integrally interwoven into the very fabric of our existence. Unfortunately, if the sadness is limited to situational triggers, there’s not much you can do except to wait it out until it passes. If the sadness has a different root and pops up in your life without meaning, there are several steps you can take to either curb the sadness, or completely vanquish it. Celeb Teen Laundry compiled a five step list to assist you in becoming a happier, healthier person again.
Step 1 – Find the root of the sadness – Ask yourself, “Why am I sad? What made me sad in the first place? What happened to make me this sad?” If you’re able to find the cause of your sadness, you’re already halfway to being better. Finding the root will allow you to reflect on your situation and understand the demon of your sadness.
Step 2 – Listen to your heart – A deep seated sadness is always coupled with a horrible feeling in your gut. This is not due to nerves or heartburn; it’s due to the sadness taking a hold in your gut i.e. your heart. Listen to why your heart is not beating to the drum of happiness and follow this sound at all times. It will eventually lead you to an answer.
Step 3 – Don’t stop feeling – This is an extremely important step. Almost all cases of depression are linked to a bottling up of emotions. Whatever you do, never EVER bottle up those feelings. Feel the emotion running through you, acknowledge the sadness, and move on. There’s no use in trying to hide what you’re feeling, because in the end, those hidden emotions will come back to haunt you eventually. You have to feel your sadness and try to cope with it in the best way possible.
Step 4 – Don’t be a hater – The penultimate step in your healing process is of utmost importance. In fact, this might be the most important step of all. Sadness brings negativity, and with negativity comes an inner dialogue. This is the voice that will speak to you when you’re feeling at your worst. It will taunt you, ridicule you, and tell you to hate yourself. Remember, you are here for a reason, even if you don’t believe it at times. Don’t let this voice creep up and make you a hater!
Step 5 – Divert attention away from the sadness – The fifth and final step in your healing process is the most difficult step of all. You have to ensure that you keep your mind and body busy through exercise, hobbies, and/or arts and crafts. This will give your mind a chance to heal itself before you allow the sadness back into your life. It’s a powerful and life changing step that will teach you to be more resilient towards negativity and negative emotions. Don’t let the sadness take over. Never, ever allow the sadness to take over.
These 5 steps should ONLY be implemented if you feel like your sadness is NOT all encompassing. If it becomes too much to bear and you don’t see how you’re able to benefit from these 5 steps, rather reach out to a loved one/friend/teacher/religious person/counselor/etc. Always take the power back into your own hands to become a healthy and happy person again. In the wise words of Kelly Clarkson, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!”