Katy Perry may be viewed by the world as a sex goddess, but she doesn’t see that when she looks in the mirror. The international popstar showed up to the UNICEF Snowflake Ball in NYC wearing a gorgeous floor length dress (pictured above) that dazzled everyone. But in an interview after the event, she admitted, “I feel like my fat is sticking out so bad right now. I almost always wear Spanx, but not tonight, and I feel it pushing out, making me look fat.” I don’t think anyone with eyes would dare to call the amazing singer fat, or even a bit chubby. Her concert costumes often involve pouffy skirts with unique bra tops, or tight spandex suits, so it’s crazy to think she has any body issues. If being cheered on in a bikini by 20,000 adoring fans won’t get through to you, what will?
Katy’s concerts are physically demanding and involve about 90 minutes of dancing and singing, which is quite the workout. The singer explained after the UNICEF event, “I like to say I run on the elliptical for 30 minutes watching CNN, but I don’t do it often enough. So I’m just like, ‘Oh, I guess I’m not fitting into this Lanvin dress for these couple of months.’” It’s so sad to think that someone as renouned as Katy Perry struggles with these issues, but what about the rest of us? A study by Glamour Magazine found that “on average, women have 13 negative body thoughts daily—nearly one for every waking hour. And a disturbing number of women confess to having 35, 50 or even 100 hateful thoughts about their own shapes each day.” So how can we overcome the voices in our heads? Dr. Ann Kearney-Cooke, a psychologist who specializes in body image, helped to explain the problem, and solution.
“It’s become such an accepted norm to put yourself down that if someone says she likes her body, she’s the odd woman out. I was in a group discussion recently, and when one woman said, ‘I actually feel OK about the way I look,’ another woman scrunched up her face and said, ‘I have never in my whole life heard anyone say that—and I’m not sure I even believe you.’ That’s how pervasive this negative body talk is. It’s actually more acceptable to insult your body than to praise it.” Appreciate your body for what it does, rather than how it looks. In our survey, 55 percent of women had abusive thoughts about their overall weight or size; 43 percent said they targeted specific areas (the most berated: belly and thighs). “Next time you’re, say, cursing your wobbly arms, pause and think of their purpose—is it to make you feel bad? Or to let you hug your friends and enjoy life?”